Perhaps the only thing I feel qualified to lead is meditation. That’s because there are no ‘rules,’ and if there are- they are made to be transcended. They are made to be broken.
There are properties and principles that come along with meditation. These are important to understand as to give a greater reason to meditate and not go off seemingly ‘woo-woo’ advice.
1. How meditation functions
The modus operandi of meditation is through ‘the heart.’ As cliche as it may sound, this is a good metaphor to experiencing your true, authentic nature. The functioning principles of ‘the heart’ are such, as the antithesis of the mind. As human beings, we function in an authentic reality when our heart and head align- when what we feel is right for us, is the same as what we do. Some people call this ‘balance,’ but I prefer: ‘alignment.’
Our hearts have no words, but our minds create words and labels. These words can explain our feelings, stemming from the ‘heart,’ or true self of non-judgement. When our words are muddled and negative, or convoluted and confused, we are out of alignment with our true nature and we are misconstruing something in translation between the heart and the head.
By default, the mind is clever, it is logical, it is mechanical. Our hearts are abstract, emotional, and flowing. Our minds are the ‘how-to blogs’ we read, the standardized tests we fill out, the mechanism’s design book. Our hearts are the poetry blogs, the motivation/pressure before the test, and the energy that both starts the mechanism and creates the momentum which results from the mechanical system as a whole- the passion and the ‘chi.’
We need both head and heart to live a harmonious human experience: to operate and to function.
2. The law of balance/alignment
The law of balance is seen on a micro scale in the yin and yang symbol. Through a greater investigation, it is seen on a macro scale. When the Tao by LaoTsu was written, so too were The Dialects by Confucius. This ripped a nation apart with Tao vs Dialect followers. These books have the same inherent content and morals, but were written with different tones and structures. The Tao was written in a poetic, abstract, heart-centered way, and The Dialects were written in a logical, mechanical, head-centered way. The prior is the feminine half, characteristics of the yin. And the following is the masculine half, characteristics of the yang. The two together, create the yin-yang symbol of harmony.
This is quite relevant to how meditation works- the combination of these two writings are a head and heart alignment, and, would have been a national alignment, if these concepts were understood as harmonious, rather than opposing.
The understanding of such things, is found through meditation and aligning the head and the heart- ‘balance’ and harmony.
3. So how?
The how-to of meditation is up to you. Only you know how far away you are from your center of ‘head-heart’ alignment. You figure this out, by silencing your mind, and giving less judgement to your words and thus, lesson the labels you put to explain your feelings.
It is from a point of blankness, you will be able to hear yourself authentically.
I feel the ‘rules’ and guided meditation are great to get you to a place of relaxation. But they can also be turn-offs because it defies the point of meditating to authenticity, where there really are no ‘rules.’
Outside guides can only take your meditation so far. It is one’s personal ability to take this silence to the next level. And only the individual will know how, when and where. One will have the inner knowing to instinctively follow their inner nature, as soon as they come to a relaxed mental state.
So once you find your silence, break the rules- all of them. Find your clarity, your peace, your own truth.
Transcend everything you thought you knew.
In short, it is my understanding that meditation is a completely individualized practice and will vary from soul to soul, person to person.
While these are my truths, they may be understood differently by another.
I urge, find your way.